Today is my last full day at Magdalen; my group of
Academics packs out tomorrow morning. Some are heading home; a surprising
number have barely time to unpack, re-pack and head back to school; a lucky few
are going to travel around a bit more before heading back to the States.
The last week has been a blur, with final papers and
projects due and more trips than usual. Running through everything like a minor
motif in a symphony is an undercurrent of I
can’t believe it’s almost over. We say it to each other constantly, as if
it’s a new discovery, as if it’s almost
over isn’t the undercurrent in every sentient mind, everywhere,
all the time.
As it should be. For every Hero’s Home I’ve seen on
this trip, I’ve seen twice as many Hero’s Headstones. When you realize that
everyone you admire professionally is dead, it makes you wonder if maybe your
time would be better spent admiring the living. For me, the Old Answer was: No.
But the Oxford Answer is the same one I learned in
Improv Class, where you never, ever
say no: you say, “Yes, and . . .” Shakespeare? Yes, and Monica Drake. Tolkien? Yes, and
J. K. Rowling. Lesson Learned: Don’t be such a damned snob. Boy, do I not know
everything. I will visit the world of the classics, but live in the world I live in.
Speaking of being a damned snob, I am going to quit
assuming that I know what’s going on with other people. Beautiful people aren’t
always jerks. Intellectuals aren’t always interesting. Athletes aren’t always
stupid. Reverse-prejudice doesn’t make you superior, it just makes you
prejudiced.
The Oxford Answer is to talk to people about what we’ve
got in common, even if as far as I can tell the only thing we have in common is
standing in the same check-out line. I vow to quit worrying about being looked at and start seeing other people. Lesson Learned: Get over myself.
Adjacent to that Lesson, and seemingly in opposition to
it, is another one: Take myself seriously. When I stop worrying about trying to
look cool, I’m free to attempt the most basic (and most difficult) thing of
all: doing what I want to do. The Oxford Answer is that no matter what your
friends or your parents or Reddit or the Kardashians think, it’s permissible to
love writing and math, skateboards and theatre, Gregorian chants and Pokémon Go. You don’t have to
explain it or justify it.
(Sure, people may Make Remarks. Pity those people. They
have yet to Get Over Themselves.)
I’m glad I paid attention every second I was here. I’m
indebted to my tutors, academic Amazons who showed us Secrets of the Universe, bent
our brains into new formations and then continued the discussions over cider
and Guinness (extremely responsibly, of course). I’m grateful for every one of
the other students here – those dear people who pretended I wasn’t slowing them
down on the excursions, who invited me along to the pubs, who finally straight-up
insisted that I sit at “our table” in
the Buttery. I’m very thankful to my family and friends who kept me from losing
my mind to homesickness in the middle of the night (either mine or theirs) via
text, Skype, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter. The Man will be here tomorrow
morning (!!!!!!!) and we’re going to
wander through the UK and Italy as our fancy takes us for a couple of weeks. I
wonder if he’ll find me changed. I feel
changed. I hope I am. It has been
quite a trip.
I’m glad you came along. I can’t believe it’s almost over.
tl;dr: If you ever get the chance to attend Oxford
University, do it. It’s worth the hype.
(Thank you, Sweetheart. Thank you for Oxford. Thank
you for The Bodleian. I owe you one.)
Taken in the woods planted by C. S. Lewis and his brother Warnie at their home, The Kilns;
the woods supposed by many people to have been the inspiration for Narnia.
Yes.
I've been to Narnia.